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Many of us who have received a mental health diagnosis have been treated poorly.  Much of the mental health system is sub par and in dire need of transformation.    But, It is only by learning to forgive those who have injured us can help the system transform.  We also need to forgive ourselves, for we can be very hard on ourselves.
                                                       

                                          FORGIVENESS
not somthing we do for other people.  We do it for ourselves so we can heal our lives and tap into our inner joy.
                                                           

                              FORGIVENESS PRAYER    

If there is anyone or anything that has hurt me in the past, knowingly or unknowingly, I forgive and release it.    If I have hurt anyone or anything in the past (including myself), knowingly or unknowingly, I forgive and release it.  (Asking for the highest best good for everyone concerned).                               
                                                      RADICAL FORGIVENESS
                                                       13 STEP PROCESS
                                                        (by Collin C. Tipping)

Sit back and get comfprtable focusing on your breath.  Know that you are loved and there is nothing about you that you need to change.  You are perfect just the way you are.  make a response at each of the following 13 steps.

1.       Take a moment or two to bring to mind the situation that's troubling you or has you in a state of upset.  You might want to pause and write some notes to ensure you are really in touch with your upset.  Feel the full extent of your victimhood, and tell your story from the point of view of the victim.  Go fully into "poor me" and really feel yourself judging the people in the situation.  Allow your feelings to be fully present. 2.  Close your eyes and keep them closed for the remainder of the exercise.  Begin to feel some of the emotions you have around this situation.  the moment you become aware of those feelings, place your hand over the part of the body they seem to be located.  If it's in a place you can't reach, just become aware of it and the quality of feeling in your body. 3.  Nod your head if you are willing to allow the feelings to be just the way they are and to flow where they want to flow.  If tears are there, let them flow if they want to.  Nod if you need more time and allow the tears to flow taking as long as you wish.

4.   Even if don't understand how, are you willing to be open to the possibility that the situation may be purposeful and that your Higher Self has created this situation for your highest good?  Nod your head yes if you are willing.

5.   Do you realize that your upset is a direct reflection of something that needs to be healed and that even if you cannot see it yet the healing message is certainly contained in the situation?  Good 6.   Are you willing to release your need to judge the situation as either right or wrong, good or bad?  Even if you can't explain how, can you simply allow the situation to be perfect just the way it is?  Nod your head if you are willing.  If you are not yet, that's okay.

7.   Can you be open to the idea that you only get upset when someone resonates in you something about you that you have denied, repressed, and projected on to them; and that what is upsetting you about the other person represents a part of you that is crying out to be loved and accepted? 8.  Even if you have no idea what that might be, are you willing to unconditionally love and accept that part of you right now in this moment?  Feel your heart opening to that part of you have rejected.  Welcome it back.  Embrace it, and love it unconditionally.

9.  If there are others involved, are you willing to be open to the idea that you attracted them into your life and that subconsciously you are receiving exactly what you both needed enabling both of you to release your addiction to the victim archetype and to reclaim your power?

10.  Do you recognize that in forgiving them you have forgiven yourself?

11.  Notice when the feelings you had at the beginning have begun to subside.  Can you get a sense of the Divine Love flowing beneath tha apparent situation?

12.  Notice when the thoughts you had at the beginning - the ones that were attached to the feelings - have lost their charge.  Maybe, you can't even remember what they were.

13.  Finally, forgiveness is always a shift in perception and a change in energy.  This comes about when we take our attention away from the drama and the illusions that we had previously given our power to and look to the world of Divine Truth for the truth.  When we see it, we are empowered to be who we truly are - spiritual beings having a human experience - and we are reconnected with our source.  As you sit silently for a few moments in contemplation of this, might you have an insight, a shift in perception maybe, a feeling of peace perhaps, of maybe nothing at all.  That's okay too for we know that healing is now taking place on the inner plane.  Continue to meditate on this for as long as you wish.  When you are ready, open your eyes.  

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